If we buy something and our expectations of its quality are not met we are disappointed and often complain. Within relationships we also have expectations and these are often not met, but if we express our disappointment it is easy to cause offense, creating irritation or anger. Even when we try to hide our feelings the other person often senses the negative energy, and resentment will probably result.
It is so difficult not to undermine a relationship this way.
Looking inward is the solution because it is in our capability to change how we respond to others and consequently not project our feelings onto them.
The reality is that every one of us is behaving according to our state of consciousness in the moment or situation. Looking inward we can sense this in ourselves. Accepting this fact in others means we can see how it must apply to everyone. Its not that we drop our standards - its just that we no longer unconsciously project our own expectations, beliefs or desires.
Until we can do this we are bound to create the potential for disappointment in us, high will most likely be felt by others.
Accepting deeply that no person can be any other way than they are in that moment is the key. We are all evolving little by little, but right now, this is how it is for every one of us.
When we acknowledge this truth at the deepest level, everything becomes so much easier to accept rather than expect.
Accept the reality of the moment. Drop all effort to impose opinions, preferences and beliefs.
We carry on doing what we hope is the right thing in any given situation, but when we act from a place of acceptance, people feel it. They stop sensing they are being judged. Their ego isn't put on guard or hurt.
The result is more inner peace for you and increased harmony and happiness in your relationships.