A very fortunate few do find a beautiful love with another, but even the most enduring will run its course and finally end, even if it lasts a lifetime. 

This may seem like a sobering thought - and might not brighten your day - but contemplating the true flow and the temporary nature of everything in life is a huge step towards experiencing an inner letting-go of mind-made ideas that control our thinking, feelings and behaviour. 

Nothing lasts forever. Whether the soulmate idea is real or not, every relationship is finite. Full acceptance of this fact is actually liberating!

It may seem scary to truly accept that nothing external, whether a person, possession, or even our physical body, will last forever - but it is truth. 

Everything can, and ultimately will, leave us.

Somehow, although there is no way to explain how, when we truly deeply accept that all things will pass, we relax our grip and begin to appreciate and enjoy it all the more. And as this happens, simultaneously our mental/emotional attachment and clinging to what we might lose, or what we feel we could not live without, begins to lessen. 

When we stop trying to hold onto anything, what is meant to be with us naturally stays, and things that do not serve us start to fall away.

Love, when in relation to something external, is the most powerful emotion, but if we genuinely look at where it comes from, we discover it is more related to wanting and needing than we may like to admit.

By focusing attention on the source of love we can get past the obstruction of the external something - a person, object, idea or belief - to love at its purest. 

When we discover that love is there even in the absence of an external object, spontaneously our 'longing to love' is set free to flow out unconditionally.

John